📊 Table of 3 Columns
A tool for identifying triggers and preventing overflow
1️⃣ Think of a recent difficult situation with your child
2️⃣ Fill in the 3 columns by unpacking what happened
3️⃣ Identify the hidden need to better anticipate the next time
4️⃣ Plan a strategy for the next similar situation
📝 Example completed - Morning situation
| ⚡TARGET What set things off? |
😤REACTION How did the child react? |
💚BESOIN What did he really need? |
|---|---|---|
| "Hurry up, we're late!" | Screams, refuses to get dressed, cries | Time, calm, predictable routine |
| Change of clothes (itchy sweater) | Undresses, throws sweater, crisis | Sensory comfort, limited choices prepared |
| Brother singing loudly next door | Blocks his ears, knocks | Silence, personal space |
✅ Get up 15 minutes earlier to avoid pressure
✅ Prepare comfortable clothes the night before
✅ Ask brother to play in another room while dressing.
📝 Example completed - Homework situation
| ⚡TRIP | 😤REACTION | 💚BESOIN |
|---|---|---|
| Difficult math exercise | "This sucks, I suck!", crumples the paper | Breakdown into steps, encouragement |
| Noise from TV in living room | Can't concentrate, gets upset | Quiet, noise-cancelling headphones |
| Misunderstood instructions | Panic, cry, give up | Rephrasing, visual support |
✅ Do homework in a quiet place, without TV
✅ Break exercises down into mini-steps: "We just do 1a together."
✅ Explain instructions with a drawing or an example
✏️ TO YOU! Your situation to analyze
Location: _______________________________________________
Date: _______________ Time : _______________
| ⚡TARGET What set things off? |
😤REACTION How did the child react? |
💚BESOIN What did he really need? |
|---|---|---|
💡 Prevention strategies to be implemented :
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✏️ Blank table n°2
Location: _______________________________________________
Date: _______________ Time : _______________
| ⚡TRIP | 😤REACTION | 💚BESOIN |
|---|---|---|
💡 Prevention strategies :
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✏️ Blank table n°3
Location: _______________________________________________
Date: _______________ Time : _______________
| ⚡TRIP | 😤REACTION | 💚BESOIN |
|---|---|---|
💡 Prevention strategies :
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📌 Reminder: Frequent triggers
| 🔊Sensory Noise, light, textures, smells, temperature |
⏰ Temporal Hunger, fatigue, transitions, lack of time |
| 🎭 Emotional Frustration, disappointment, fear, change |
👥Social Conflict, misunderstanding, judgment, crowd |
📌 Checklist: Frequent needs
| 🤫 Quiet Silence, quiet corner, pause |
🗓️ Predictability Routine, planning, preparation |
| 🤗Support Presence, listening, help, encouragement |
⚡ Energy Moving, sports break, letting off steam |